Breaking up can be highly emotional and painful. You can feel, at once, hurt and sad, and completely awash in deep depression. You can feel ripped apart because you miss them. You can suddenly find yourself obsessed over getting your ex back.
You can do a search online and find tons of how-to’s and other instructional material, from books, blogs, complete courses, membership sites and forums, all serving the purpose of helping you in getting your ex back. This might be fine, to follow all of this advice, but the main things you need to bring to your situation are common courtesy and common sense. Both of these can help you immensely and at the very least, if you don’t bring these two things with you, no amount of reading books, or joining websites will help you.
There are a few things that you can do, first of all, that will help you in getting your ex back. Remember, these things involve both common sense and courtesy. Read carefully and determine if you are following these tips, or are struggling to get your ex back. It could be that, by adding these tips to your efforts, it could be all the difference you need.
People in a breakup situation like to play games with each other. This is a bad idea, unless you could care less about getting back with your ex. Here is what happens with all this game playing, most commonly called head games. The person directing the game playing feels empowered by doing this. It all involves manipulating the feelings and thoughts of the other person. If you really care about getting back with this person, don’t use this short-lived power play. You will lose every time. Both of you will.
Another form of game playing involves the old jealousy ploy. You might be tempted to try this, to see if your ex really misses you. Use your head here: will making your ex jealous really work? If, by pretending to be dating or in love with someone else bring your ex back into your arms? Maybe. But why not flip a coin if you are willing to take such odds. It could very well put a permanent end to your relationship, and your make up efforts. Why risk it?
How about this tip: avoid being mean to your ex. It might seem like ridiculous advice, but you would be shocked to learn how many people turn mean in this situation. Sure, you might be feeling hurt or angry over the breakup, and being mean would be the most natural reaction to this. Take your time here, before acting upon your reaction. Don’t be like most people. Treat your ex with kindness and respect, and you stand a better chance at opening up the opportunity to make up, because you didn’t mistreat him or her.
Lastly, ask yourself if something in the way you behaved might have led to or contributed to the breakup. Look at yourself through your ex’s eyes, and try to see if there might have been something you didn’t see. Would you like being with yourself, or would you be glad when you could get out of the room you were in, grateful to get away? It could be nagging, being quick to get angry, showing no patience or tolerance. Any of these behaviors could have been enough for your ex. If you recognize any of these misbehaviors, then start to work at changing how you behave. Try to be more patient and tolerant, less angry and criticizing.
By changing your behavior for the better, and working to be a person that your ex misses, and really wants to be with, and mixing into this some common sense and common courtesy, you could begin the process of getting your ex back.